A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he did, he developed "entitlement mentality" and always put himself first. He is ignorance of his parent's effort. When he started work, he assumed every people must listen to him, and when he became a manager, he would never know how suffering his employee and always blame others. For this kind of people, he can have good result, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement, he will grumble and full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parent, did we love the kid or destroy the kid?how exactly u 'choose' to raise your child?
You can let your kid lived in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experienced it. After a meal, let them washed their plate and bowl together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parent are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learn how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learn the ability to work with others to get thing done.
my guess, there's no yes/no answer when it come to raising a kid
because not every kid is the same
eventhough they share the same parent and got both parents' DNA, they came in different mould
different personalities and likes and everything
what works for one may not work for the others
so, the utmost responsibilities should lies with us, the parents, first
we must first 'establish' ourselve
stabilize our emotions
widen our knowledge
know our options
then only we can bring the best out of our children.