City Cat vs Kampung Cat

2 minggu di kampung wahh kemain cik Aliya kita ya..
gembira sungguh bebas bermesra dgn alam.

mak cerita, dia ramai kawan, nak pulak cucu2 org kampung tu ramai yg balik sebab ada kenduri
Aliya cakap dia kawan dgn 'org bandar'
dia ni pulak 'org kampung'
baru 2 minggu dok kampung dah lupa diri :-P

org dok sebok buat kerja kat rumah org kawin, kejap2 ada je org dgt bagitau nenek
'maklanggg...rasa2 mcm cucu maklang ghabat pokok nyioq tu!'
'maklang...nampak macam cucu maklang ja dok tengah bendang tu..'

alahaii..sakit jantung darah tinggi maktok hang!

alahai anak omak

hujung minggu lepas, borak2 dgn abg ajies
tiba2 dia cakap, dia ada teori baru
aiseyman..main teori pulak laki ai now...kelessss
ok mari kita tgk teori apa kah itu..domino ke tidak?

dia kata..dia rasa lah kan, one of the reason kita org dewasa ni dah tak berapa nk tunjuk kasih sayang kat mak pak sebab, masa kita kecik dulu mak pak kita pun tak berapa nkmenzahirkan kasih sayang kat tok dan wan kita.
like, kalau dgn anak2 bukan main kita sayang peluk cium dokong suap makan, mandikan pastu lap badan pakaikan baju..
tp bila dah besar kita tak biasa nk buat semua tu kat ibu bapa kita..
ye lah, pada kita kasih sayang pada mak ayah cuma takat salam cium tangan, tak melawan cakap..
ok jujur la..berapa ramai yg hari2 masak lauk pegi hantar kat mak ayah kita?
 hari2 balik makan kat rumah mak lagi ramai kot hehe (termasuk aku la!)
nk urut kaki mak ayah pun buleh kira setahun berapa kali..
kalau anak sakit, tgh mlm sanggup bgn bawa pegi jumpa doktor,
tp kalau mak telefon bgtau tak sihat,
kita jawab 'esok2 kitorng balik tgk mak ye.'

one thing, mungkin sebab dah dewasa, mak ayah pulak masih sihat alhamdulillah jadi diorg pun tak selesa kot kalau kita nk tolong lap, pakaikan baju hehe..ko ni apahei..
tp..mungkin sebab tak biasa.. mungkin juga sebab mak ayah tak meminta2 mcm anak2 kita
tapi, kalau kita rapat dgn mak ayah, tak perlu diorang meminta, kita dah boleh baca apa yg diorang perlu..

mungkin, paradigma ini perlu di ubah
tunjukkan pada anak2 kita betapa kita utamakan ibu bapa..
mudah2an mereka membesar dgn stigma yg sama. esok2 kita juga nk menumpang kasih mereka
jgn ditunggu anak2 besar esok belajar dan akan pandai sendiri
kalau kita tak mulakan tanam benih dari sekarang, boh baja, siram hari2
manakan mungkin ada hasil yg diingini?

wallahu'alam.
semoga Allah memberkati kita dgn memberi anak2 yg soleh dan solehah, dan menjadikan kita juga anak yg soleh dan solehah kepada ibu bapa kita..amiin.

Cuti sekolah

Come school holiday, our small family will split into three.

One is north

One is southwest, lebih kurang la

And the rest is home. Wic doesn't sound and fill much like home when we have not enough corum and less yelling.

Aisyah, my eldest as always prefer my inlaws. No doubt since she was raised by them since a baby, she loved being pampered and 'pampering' her tokmama otherwise. She loves tokmama's cooking. They will spend the day talking, while she give tokma some leg massage. Or play the hair salon game.

Aliya, eventho born n bred in city, is always a kampung girl at heart. Thats why she enjoy the time at my kampung with her Maktok and AyahWan.

She favors maktok's curry, spend her day chasing the chicken n socialising with the rest of kampung makciks. My mom will take her along when visiting relatives n friends and graveyards n those religious classes at the mosque.  She know more people there than I do!

Umar very much like to follow kakngah, but abak would be lost here being the only man in the house, huh?
so at the very last minute abak would bribe him not to follow maktok..
Adyra, of course cant leave mummy's ketiak..

at the absence of the other two of Ajies's girl, these two is now can happily ride the motorbike with abak to and fro the daycare.

Letting my children to spend holiday with my parents is not intentionally to burden them. Or atleast that's what I think. Thats why before I let them I will ensure that they will not be. I only started leaving my kids alone when they can go to toilet on their own. Or at times when my sister is home so she can help out.

Actually,  sending my children over is not just relieving myself, bonding, or finding a solution to fill their free time (does kids have 'free time' btw?), but when I think about it, I just realised that it's something I actually did for myself. 

I want to be there..at places I want to be most, with the very people I want to spend my time most..but I cant afford to, now.

At the very least, part of me is there..with them..