Potty potty on the Floor, who is the merriest of All?

Bravo Adyra!
dah berjaya guna potty, siap pegi sendiri hahaha

honestly, training my girls in potty department is quite easy.
or relatively easy.
the trick is i think, to let them decide when they are ready.
rather than 'pushing' them,  this saves me a lot from frustration and desperation. perspiration too!

i started Aisyah at almost 2, you can read here

When Aliya's turn, i had my arms full handling two toddlers. so i cant really focus, plus weekends were spent mostly outside, so training is highly not possible.
so i just leave it to her, but at the same time training her mind to attune to the idea.
i show her how her sister do it, how elmo do it, how everyone do it.
she like to potty but she just not ready to part with her diapers yet.she just dont want.
and nothing, no one can make her. thats my Aliya.
all of sudden, at about 4 i think, she simply dont want diaper anymore, and manage to hold on until we reach toilet. not even need to train to use the potty. potty tu last2 jadi kerusi mainan pulak, its barely been used for the intended purposes!
after a while, when i notieced that she stays dry in the morning, i let her go..
yi haa!, until now, not even an accidents in bed.

and Umar.. *sighhhh
i started him also at about 2, bila dia dah mula bgtau dia nk sheeshee
tapi dia ni leceh sikit sebab tak boleh tahan punya olang, pastu kdg2, eh bukan kadang2, selalu sgt, tak boleh beza rasa nak sheeshee dgn rasa dah shess.. mmg mencabar sungguh
i tried him with many things - potty, training pants, hourly call.. but still he pose quite a challenge.
and sebab mummy pun dah penat nk melayan 3 org, and also at that time my husband had to work after hours a lot, i just cant handle it alone. so i givap.
yes i givap, i put Umar back on diaper so that my life is easier.
and i dont regret doing that.

after a while, when is he more mature and more able to manage himself, i slowly re-introduce potty training. again, my biggest challenge i would say, is time. as working mother, i can only do it during weekend. but weekend too is very limited.
by then Umar already attending school and day-care, and the caretaker actually do help to train him. of course, there are few incidents anak aku kena marah sebab 'terbabas' kat taska.. thats why i dont pressure him much, we just dont know what our kids are facing everyday at the day-care so let them enjoy their day the way they like it.

slowly he manage to go diaper-free at about 4yrs, cuma malam2 stil pakai until now. even now during day time pun still ada accidents. at this age mmg kena marah la.. because at times the accidents were because he is too khusyu' main game or tgk tv!!!
until now he still use diaper at night because we are simply tired to do the laundry.
and im tired to wake up in the middle of night or early morning to drag him to toilet.

here come Adyra.. i only started her at 2+, simply because she does not show the 'readiness'.
but during bathtime i will ask her if she want to use potty.
when she finally did, i just asked her if she want to go free for the day and she said Yes!
i would asked her every hour if she need to go. lucky enough no major accidents except for normal ones in front of the bathroom door. even that only happen sekali dua je.
in less than a month i can bring her out diaper-free, we even travel back to Kedah without any leakage!
cuma like umar they both still use diaper at night.
i'l give them another year for that.

for those mothers looking to potty train, again the most important thing is to :
1. asses the readiness.
its not just your child's readiness, but also you!
children should be able to tell you that they need to, manage to hold on for a while until you reach the toilet.
you know your child, and you know yourself. kalau masih rasa malas nk monitor anak, nk drag and waited for them in the toilet, might as well dont. because you wont do it whole-heartedly. you might end-up abusing, hurting your kids for making you work extra. this is honest opinion from a lazy mom.
2. communicate
mother should know how your children will communicate these to you,. both should be able to discuss this - what she want, if she like it, if she want to do it, what is the motivation, what troubles her etc

3. Patience
another key word - dont push. the time will come
but if they're already 5 and still on diaper, i advise you to start now. we dont wat them to still use diaper when they go to school.
because, if i, i would prefer to train my children myself, i dont know how 'persistent' or how is the regime will be used for my kid behind me.
dont really fall under other's comment about our children. lantak la bukan diorang yg belikan diaper anak aku pon. i mean, we know our child more that them. lojik la mana ada mak nk biar anak dia pakai lampin sampai tua kalau sihat walafiat

ok good luck Mommies!

Nightmare on Elm Street

Training for diaper-free night is the real challenge. its different at all.

at first, i still put aisyah on diaper.
but im lucky to be able to let her went diaper-free at times, especially kalau terlupa or terlajak, since i still had the plastic sheet on my tilam. helps a lot, just had to change the bedsheet and wipe the sheet clean.
it helps a lot, since when she wakes up all wet, she knows that it shudnt be that way
and me will bebel2 at her, and she'l remember.
 there's a lot of tips on succesful potty train at night but i just go with my best motherly instinct.
its not easy since aisyah insists on her milk right before sleep. and followed by another half bottle of plain water later..mmg sah-sah banjir la pastu..
what i did was to make sure she go to toilet right after her milk. by hook or by crook! at times dia pun malas gak so berperang gak ler nk soh pi toilet. especially kalau dia dah siap pakai diapers.
since she by then dah pandai pakai lampin sendiri lagiii la.. tgk2 dah ready je, dah siap kencing pon dlm tu!!! tak pasai2 kena ganti.
and since siang2 dah tak pakai lampin, she will on poo poo malam2.. elok pakai lampin je mula la..
i notice, bukannya dia tk reti nk guna toilet ke apa, but more likely dia saja 'seronok' berak dlm lampin.. buleh????
after 'few' rows dan beberapa ancaman cubitan, she finally gave in.. naturally actually.
i just noticed that she gradually be able to stay dry till morning. cuma kalau bangun lambat haa terkucil la jugak.
i dont wake her up in the middle of the night, sebab dia dah la susah nk tido kan, kalau kena kejut mlm2 sah2 buat perangai. tak sukerrrrr..! so takpe la mummy relaaa basuh cadar hari2

kalau ikut some of the tips i found on the net, for eg here

if i may simplified the tips:
1. invest in plastic sheet to protect the mattress. agak2 kalau korang mama yg kejam kasi je anak tido atas lantai hehe
2. limit the fluid intake by nighttime. i tried to reduce the amount of milk and plain water tp ikut nasib la, at times she'l insists 'nak susu banyakkk!!!'
3. bring your kid to empty their tank right before bedtime.
4. wake them up to shee-shee in the middle of the night, or again right before dawn. most accident normally occurs around that time.

you just have to be (again) patient.
accident-free night may take longer to build.. so hold on.

apapun, i noticed that the success rate for complete diaper-free children lies in several factor:
1. the childs ability/holding power - my aisyah is very good at this. i have never had accident when outing with her! she can hold it quite well.. but i didnt take the risk, even if it means terpaksa la ku berlari2 dukung dia yg dok tahan!!
2. persistency - a must.
3. child's understanding - they must know why they'r need to do that. if not they just wont bother..
4. full support - from everyone around. it may not work properly, or it'l take longer time to success if not everyone is co-operating. because it'l make the kids confuse and the routine will be interrupted. but of course, you need to know when to stand and when to give in.. takkan nk pi rumah org pastu biar anak kencing merata kan.. agak2 laa.. and maybe you can be more considerable with  your kids caretaker.. explain to them, but give them some space.. u might not want them to feel 'burdened' with the extra task all of sudden. some childcare centre do encourage and potty train the kids, so be prepare and get to know their methods. jgn tetiba nk hangen bila anak cerita kena marah ke apa.. i mean, check with the nanny/teacher dulu.

tu je la kot?
kalau ada soklan sila kemukakan tanpa was was.

something i would smile upon ten, twenty years the road..

selasa lepas ku tensyenn sungguh dgn budak2 2 orang tuh
anak sapaaaaa la ni eh.. sah anak abak haha!

pukul seploh akak sudah siap2 soh tido..
but aisyah had her own agenda..
adaaa je kerja dia nk buat
lepas pi toilet siap bukak baju, basah la apa la..ada jee alasan dia
pastu buat perangai taknak pakai baju grgrgrggrggrr

si Liya pulak, tgk kaklong tak tido, mana buleh jadi kan, must la join the club
jenuh ku paksa dia tido, stil tak jln
dengar je sore kaklong terus angkat kepala
yg taktahan siap gelak mengekek-kekek.. tau je la aliya kan macho..susah nor nk dengar dia gelak
last-last.. ku letak je 2-2 kat bawah
haa lantak le hangpa.. mummy nk tido dah ni

*pakai lampin sebab nk berak mulanya..kelakar sebab kitorang selalu suruh dia guna potty, and i always said rugi $ mami tau pakai lampin. to which, everytime nk pakai lampin she'l say 'mami, ni tiga ringgit ni' wakakakkaka

tengok, habis cadar pun dah terbarai..

ok..elele senyum-senyum kena marah.. mana laa mami tak cairr..

ok, 1 down!

one more to go

at last..

ku berjaya pakaikan baju and ready to take off to slumberland..

*actually aku suruh aisyah berlakon dah tido for the purpose of this enteri hehe

pandai berlakon tak anak ku?